A placeholder is an individual who temporarily occupies a position or temporarily fills a void. The individual will use the placeholder to keep his or her mind occupied, until the person who they want and desire becomes available.
You start to feel there might be something going on between you and this person based on his or her actions towards you. The connection between you and this individual is there, vibe well with this person. You start to have meaningful conversations, and he or she shows interest in what you’re doing, cracks jokes, gives you compliments, etc.
Days and weeks go by you’re having fun with this person. Then all of a sudden he or she says certain things, starts to treat you differently and treats you like one of the guys. He or she nonchalantly brings up an individual name from their past couple of times as a joke, you ask he or she about it and they just brush it off. You are in the middle of a conversation and all of a sudden their attention goes directly to their phone and you’re watching them text a dissertation, leaving you in silence. You’re forced to sit there with your thoughts and you remember it’s a pseudo-relationship.
The next couple of days you get a phone call, then you get text messages here and there. Then turns into not hearing from him or her for months. You then come to the realization you are no longer needed and placed back onto the shelf.
You realize the entire time you have been used to fill the emptiness, while he or she was waiting for the person they wanted to become available.
As you sit on the shelf and cater to your hurt feelings. You start to have flashbacks and think about the many conversations and certain events you had with this person. You put your ego aside and realize there was no connection with this individual everything was just one-sided. You were the only one with true feelings and truly cared for this person. He or she just used you as target practice, so they won’t ruin their real relationship. -PLACEHOLDER
